Does Your Communication Style Help or Hurt You?

When I have a problem with someone,

I ignore it. I don't want to make a big fuss about it.

I let the person know she messed up and I'm angry. She needs to know so she doesn't do it again.

I tell other people how that person messed with me.

I stay calm and work with the person to find a solution.

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If friends ask what I want for my birthday,

I give them a couple of inexpensive ideas.

I say I don't know, even if I know. I don't want to seem greedy.

I'm confused and annoyed. I've already told people what I want them to get me. I tell them again.

I say nothing and see if they get it right. My friends should know me well enough to guess.

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In a group conversation,

I usually keep quiet, even if I know I could add something helpful.

I weigh in when I have something important to say.

I usually end up speaking the most and/or argue my points multiple times if I have to.

I usually don't participate. What's the point? I find someone and complain about it after it's over.

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When I am happy about something,

I keep it to myself. No one needs to know how I'm feeling.

I keep it to myself but drop hints so someone will ask me about it.

Everyone knows. I tell everyone whether they ask or not!

I tell people close to me or people I know who are interested, but I do not broadcast it.

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An acquaintance leaves a voicemail asking me to pick him up at the airport. It's a long and expensive drive and I already have plans. I:

Change my plans and do it because I don't want to hurt his feelings.

Ignore the voicemail and pretend I didn't get it.

Explain that I have prior plans and cannot do it.

Tell him how inappropriate it is for him to ask.

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At work, I used something that I thought no one needed. A co-worker had needed it. She tells me she had to change her plan because it wasn't there. She's angry and asks me to be careful next time. I:

Tell her to back off. If it's so important, she needs make sure she labels it.

Apologize and mean it. I didn't mean to cause a problem and am glad she was honest with me.

Apologize and mean it. She probably hates me now, so I go out of my way to avoid her.

Apologize only because it's expected. How could I have known? I won't forget how rude she was to me.

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It pays to be both honest and respectful, even if someone disagrees with me.

True

False

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Threatening someone so they do what I want is appropriate.

True

False

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People who know me should be able to read me and know what I need or what I'm thinking.

True

False

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It is better in the long run to go along with what other people want.

True

False

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