Summary
- Don't dump everything on each other.
- Get outside help.
- Don't try to fix each other.
- Accept each other's limits.
- Set aside time to talk.
Would your load of responsibilities feel lighter if only your partner would help out more? Do you wish your mate would really listen to your problems? Do you entertain the thought of burning the smartphone or TV remote control in order to be heard?
Many couples stay locked in anger. Their conversations are tense and unhealthy. They each feel cut off from the other. The following suggestions can help your marriage stay healthy.
Don’t use marriage as a place to dump all stress issues
If you “overuse” your marriage—using it as an emotional dumping ground—you will destroy the healthy core of the relationship. Why? You will take all the fun out of being married.
When things get tough, stop looking within your marriage for help—look outside
Shaky marriages require supportive people to get them off overload. Couples need good friends, family, babysitters, home repair professionals, and others to take the pressure off their home life. Actively seek out these individuals.
Marriage is not meant to fix everything. A marriage can turn into a pressure cooker if you expect too much from either yourself or your mate.
Let your mate handle their own problems
You are both entitled to some privacy in your relationship.Trying to fix each other can invade each other's space. For instance, if your husband’s hair is thinning, don’t make this your project. Let him worry about prescription products or scalp massages—unless he asks for your help.
Decide what your mate can realistically deliver
Your mate is a limited human being. Don’t count on your beloved to serve as a perfect co-parent/problem solver/financial guru—and more. A few people can juggle all of these roles well. Most cannot. Accept the reality of his limited talents and abilities. This helps you accept the fact that you must find resources from other avenues.
Don’t avoid discussing true marriage issues
Naturally, a couple must address certain responsibilities. Otherwise, their marriage will dissolve. Experts say that problems in these five categories—sex, chores, children, money, and leisure time—should be discussed on a regular basis. Problems in these areas do belong to a couple jointly. Allowing problems in these areas to pile up can spell trouble down the road.
Summary
- Don't dump everything on each other.
- Get outside help.
- Don't try to fix each other.
- Accept each other's limits.
- Set aside time to talk.
Would your load of responsibilities feel lighter if only your partner would help out more? Do you wish your mate would really listen to your problems? Do you entertain the thought of burning the smartphone or TV remote control in order to be heard?
Many couples stay locked in anger. Their conversations are tense and unhealthy. They each feel cut off from the other. The following suggestions can help your marriage stay healthy.
Don’t use marriage as a place to dump all stress issues
If you “overuse” your marriage—using it as an emotional dumping ground—you will destroy the healthy core of the relationship. Why? You will take all the fun out of being married.
When things get tough, stop looking within your marriage for help—look outside
Shaky marriages require supportive people to get them off overload. Couples need good friends, family, babysitters, home repair professionals, and others to take the pressure off their home life. Actively seek out these individuals.
Marriage is not meant to fix everything. A marriage can turn into a pressure cooker if you expect too much from either yourself or your mate.
Let your mate handle their own problems
You are both entitled to some privacy in your relationship.Trying to fix each other can invade each other's space. For instance, if your husband’s hair is thinning, don’t make this your project. Let him worry about prescription products or scalp massages—unless he asks for your help.
Decide what your mate can realistically deliver
Your mate is a limited human being. Don’t count on your beloved to serve as a perfect co-parent/problem solver/financial guru—and more. A few people can juggle all of these roles well. Most cannot. Accept the reality of his limited talents and abilities. This helps you accept the fact that you must find resources from other avenues.
Don’t avoid discussing true marriage issues
Naturally, a couple must address certain responsibilities. Otherwise, their marriage will dissolve. Experts say that problems in these five categories—sex, chores, children, money, and leisure time—should be discussed on a regular basis. Problems in these areas do belong to a couple jointly. Allowing problems in these areas to pile up can spell trouble down the road.
Summary
- Don't dump everything on each other.
- Get outside help.
- Don't try to fix each other.
- Accept each other's limits.
- Set aside time to talk.
Would your load of responsibilities feel lighter if only your partner would help out more? Do you wish your mate would really listen to your problems? Do you entertain the thought of burning the smartphone or TV remote control in order to be heard?
Many couples stay locked in anger. Their conversations are tense and unhealthy. They each feel cut off from the other. The following suggestions can help your marriage stay healthy.
Don’t use marriage as a place to dump all stress issues
If you “overuse” your marriage—using it as an emotional dumping ground—you will destroy the healthy core of the relationship. Why? You will take all the fun out of being married.
When things get tough, stop looking within your marriage for help—look outside
Shaky marriages require supportive people to get them off overload. Couples need good friends, family, babysitters, home repair professionals, and others to take the pressure off their home life. Actively seek out these individuals.
Marriage is not meant to fix everything. A marriage can turn into a pressure cooker if you expect too much from either yourself or your mate.
Let your mate handle their own problems
You are both entitled to some privacy in your relationship.Trying to fix each other can invade each other's space. For instance, if your husband’s hair is thinning, don’t make this your project. Let him worry about prescription products or scalp massages—unless he asks for your help.
Decide what your mate can realistically deliver
Your mate is a limited human being. Don’t count on your beloved to serve as a perfect co-parent/problem solver/financial guru—and more. A few people can juggle all of these roles well. Most cannot. Accept the reality of his limited talents and abilities. This helps you accept the fact that you must find resources from other avenues.
Don’t avoid discussing true marriage issues
Naturally, a couple must address certain responsibilities. Otherwise, their marriage will dissolve. Experts say that problems in these five categories—sex, chores, children, money, and leisure time—should be discussed on a regular basis. Problems in these areas do belong to a couple jointly. Allowing problems in these areas to pile up can spell trouble down the road.